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Customs, manners; a key to fitting in

2 Aug 2002 | Marine Corps Air Station Iwakuni, Japan

In movies, situations with foreigners attempting to deal with Japanese manners and etiquette are usually portrayed as humorous, bumbling misunderstandings. However, understanding the customs and manners of a host nation are difficult tasks, and in Japan, important ones to master.To begin with, greetings and salutations are very important, and individuals usually bow instead of shaking hands. Learning a bit of the language can also pay big dividends. "Just learning a few simple phrases such as excuse me (sumimasen) and thank you (arigato) can make your stay here in Japan more enjoyable," said Chiaki Ikeue, Cultural Adaptation instructor. "It helps break down cultural barriers."Another important point is thanking people repeatedly for gifts or favors they have done. If the person won't be seen for awhile, then a card or thank you note should be sent.Table manners are another important part of Japanese culture. While it is acceptable to slurp noodles, there are some important rules to remember. Individuals shouldn't wave chopsticks over food while trying to decide what to pick. Also, never point with chopsticks.Drinking is another important area of social concern, and one shouldn't pour his or her own drinks. Instead, people pour for each other. At parties, it's important to go around to everyone and pour them a drink at least once to thank them for their support at work or favors done.Not only should these new manners be learned, there are also old habits which shouldn't be practiced. For example, while smoking is very popular here, one shouldn't chew gum in any kind of business situation or meeting.In public, couples should refrain from kissing, hugging or showing signs of affection. Also, innocently touching members of the opposite sex, especially if the person isn't known very well, is considered quite forward.The best way to learn the manners of a host nation is to simply ask friends what should be done. Another way is to watch others to learn proper manners. The important thing to remember is that manners and customs change around the world, so it's vital that individuals learn what's proper when visiting or being stationed in a host nation.